“I think the best thing we could do as fathers is to really appreciate and respect what it means to be a mother.”

“The internal is the changing of the narrative, that how we think the next step is to change how you think of yourself. Imagine a different possibility. And then yes, all of that, the story of the family to be able to forgive, if you’re really angry, or to find your anger, if you just think your parents were lovely, loving people, right? And, and to begin to notice the adaptations that you had made, and how those adaptations served you then, but they don’t serve you now.”

“If both [attachment and authenticity] of those are attended to, generally, we have that sort of resilience to go through life. When one of those two isn’t, particularly attachment, isn’t available, we begin to adjust our authenticity, to get our attachment needs met, because we have to survive.”

“I didn’t make up this idea that I had to subjugate my authentic self, the world around me reinforced that reinforced it by beating me up by invisible-ising me.”

“[By] recognizing that there’s this whole body of folks who have a really tough time, because of the world outside. It’s not their issue. It’s the world out there, that’s hurting them. And then they sort of respond and we go, “Oh, you’re depressed.” It’s not the depression. It’s the fact that the world is, you know, is dumping on you at all times.”

“We are amazing, this whole human thing. It’s like, anybody who wants to sort of begin to solve your riddles, look in the mirror and begin to appreciate the absurdity, the beauty and the horror of being a human being.”