EPISODE #64 – GIVE UP, GROW UP, GO UP!
GROWING UP STRONG
Founder Jordan Dugger brings a wall of wisdom and insight to this conversation. But even at his incredibly young age, he has earned it at great cost. He’s the co-founder of the Flow State of Mind podcast, T4Esystems and a world leading online academy for coaches & health professionals (IFCA). He joins Tim Bishop today on a deeply personal and healthy discussion on his life and how he developed himself into the person he is today, and how we can each shift our world into the one we want.
Listing various troubles faced from childhood into adulthood, Jordan gives an inspiring reflection on the adversity of not only external things in his life, but also the internal battle he had to overcome. From this many can gleam from his story many life lessons that are so little taught, but one captured through the humility of a man who has been able to see the world around him and tell himself he can do better, for not only himself – but for others also.
In this episode you will learn and dive into:
- (9:28) – Growing Up
- (13:00) – Introduction to Business at a Young Age
- (15:20) – Racial Disconcordancy
- (19:00) – Divide et Impera: Leveraging Tribalism
- (22:15) – Dealing with Depression
- (27:20) – The Importance of Fatherly Connection
- (33:00) – Generational Domino Effect
- (35:45) – Pain and Misery as Motivation
- (39:00) – Indications of Being on The Path
- (43:45) – Relationship with Mum
- (47:00) – Finding Those Hidden Gems
- (51:30) – Strong Women as Mothers
- (54:15) – Partnerships: Intersecting Personal and Professional Lines
- (1:02:30) – Gratefulness for Skills
- (1:04:15) – The Passion for Business
- (1:14:30) – The Importance of Health
- (1:20:00) – Getting Out of Despair
- (1:23:20) – Repair, Recover, Reenergise
- (1:27:50) – Healthy Distraction
- (1:32:50) – Staving Workaholism
- (1:42:00) – Rapid Fire Questions
KEY INSIGHTS & LEARNINGS
Circumstance does not make us, it reveals us. If you want more of anything, be it freedom, direction, confidence, clarity or just calm. To becoming more and excel, there are only 3 areas you can train to achieve this:
CONTROLLING THOUGHTS
REFLECTION
SOLITUDE
Humans are social animals, but sometimes we socialise with those who are less than beneficial for us. In order for us to develop ourselves the most important first step we can take is the recognition that we can not only be alone in the unknown but thrive in it.
QUOTES FROM THE PODCAST
“Even though I didn’t have a great relationship with my dad on a personal level in that context, I’m so grateful for that environment, because I learned so many things from a young age, primarily the wrong way to do a lot of things.”
“I’ve been pushed by pain for a large part of my life, and at some point I think there needs to be a transformation or a shift where you are then pulled by a vision, and you’re pulled by something greater as opposed to pushed by that feeling.”
“There were these different experiences of men that I would go through and I’d be just be so confused, like, “Who are these fucking guys?” But at the same time you can turn those into such lessons, because it taught me exactly how I didn’t want to be: how I didn’t want to be in social situations, how I didn’t want to be as a father, how I didn’t want to be as a partner, because they were all so mean to her.”
“How do you end up finding better people, better friend groups, better colleagues, and peers. Well first off, you’ve got to separate from the people that you’re spending time with. Because there’s opportunity cost there, right? If you’re attached to these people, you’re not giving yourself the opportunity for other people to come into your life. So step Number 1, be okay with being by yourself.”
“The most unselfish thing you can possibly do is to take care of yourself so you show up better. If I’m not training, if I’m not meditating, if I’m not using the sauna, I’m thirty percent more of a dick.”
“There’s one thing I want to be known for at the end of my life; you mentioned the word wisdom. I don’t care about intelligence, I don’t care about accolades or anything like that. I want to be known as “that guy was very wise.” And when you’re around him, something is clicking where you always think differently. Like, “Wow, that’s a wise son of a bitch.” That’s what I want to be known as.”